Thursday, December 31, 2009

Why do men or women get involved with married people?

I thought I'd ask this question to see how people would respond. I would like people who are dating or have dated married people to answer. What happened in the relationship? Did he buy you things, take care of you? Do you think it could work?Why do men or women get involved with married people?
I had no idea he was married when I became involved. I did not know until after I fell in love with him. I have cut off all physical relations with him, but I still care. He has bought me (and my children) things. (NO, the kids have not met him). I'm not sure if it will work. He says he's going to leave his wife, but until he does, I'm having no physical contact with him.Why do men or women get involved with married people?
i'll answer this as best as i can.


i was working as a personal trainer/group fitness instructor, when i was in college, struggling to pay bills/tuition.





i worked at nice North Shore fitness club, where wives are married to millionaire husbands that care only about their work, treating their wives like crap.. all the wives do all day is work out and make themselves look good, but grossly under appreciated, ignored, etc etc... (but gets lots and lots of spending money).





i pay attention to them, and i used to be invited for 'lunch'. i take care of them, emotionally and physically, and i get open legs and lots of expensive gifts. i get what i need.. sex and gifts, and they get what they crave.





it was all good.








(then i grew up)
I was involved with a man who was engaged. It's not something I'm proud to admit. He was an ex-boyfriend who started calling me out of the blue. I hadn't been in a relationship in 2 years and I was very lonely. I knew he was engaged, I knew he was talking to me behind his fiance's back. He kept asking to see me and I kept declining. Finally I gave in. He didn't offer me anything but companionship. But then, everytime I saw him I would leave so angry because I kept thinking about what a jerk he was. He's still engaged and he still calls me about every 7 to 10 days. I'll pick up and talk to him once in a while when I'm bored, but I refuse to see him in person. He would never leave his fiance, and personally, I don't want to be in a relationship with him because I would always wonder what he's doing behind my back.
this has recently become a topic in my life b/c my husband's best friend is sleeping with a married mother of 3....





he claims he is lonely and she started the relationship and thats why he won't break it off.





I don't know if its a thrill? or if someone being married makes them more attractive b/c they are good enough for someone else to marry.
its usually the for the reason that a married person cannot give the commitment that is usually desired in most other relationships. many people don't want a commitment, thus desire another that already has one....no strings that way.


no gifts, not the money, the thrill of the chase(and the occasional dinner) and not having to answer to anyone else. get what you want and go home.
Married women get involved with me because I'm good looking , kind , considerate, open doors for them pay compliments on the new cloths , new hair style and I'm hung like a mule and know how to use it i have gave many their first vaginal orgasm, i guess the word gets out on a man like myself.
No matter how attracted I was, or how well I got on with a married man, would I ever, ever, consider getting involved with one. Why would I need the extra burden of something like that in my life when I could easily get a single man with no ties? I don't understand why women do this.
Why you ask!! My wife doesn't hold up her end of the marriage/sex and her husband is not around sometimes it's just fate that bring to people together, bottom line if my wife would only meet me halfway i would never even look at another woman so she owns 75% of it.
Why do MARRIED people get involved with anyone other than their husband or wife?





You don't want answers you just want people to rant!





Yes, my love happily takes care of all my expenses, luxuries, wishes and anything I want.
my ex husband left me and our kids for the mistress. they are still living together and i wish them the best of luck. will it work? it really depends on the person. but if you are thinking about it please don't do it. from all sides it's not fun.
If someone is married and willing to cheat on their spouse to be with someone else, they will cheat on that person too. A relationship that starts with lies and deception will hardly ever work
You can't help who you fall in love with.





He buys me what ever i want takes care of all my needs.





Only 72 more days until he tells his wife it's over
I didnt date a married man but i sort of liked him and he wanted to sleep with me and be his so called mistress. I doubt it will work out. You could go through hell. Don't think about it.
Less chance of STD's face it if their spouses were taking care of business they wouldn't be looking, i never have understood why my girlfriends don't sleep with their husbands.
All the good ones are usually taken, plus its fun dealing with married men they usually have great exprience..
Because that's what people (Whores) with no morals do.


They lack respect for themselves and others.


People who cheat with married people are...


WORTHLESS individuals!
No strings attatched
You know why the do that because?


1.Because they are trash.


2.They have no respect for god or morals


3.They dont care about other people feelings


4.They are selfish they want what they want and that it!





I tell you my story short.Years ago there was a guy who I liked a lot .I knew he was married .he never lied to me .i was married too.You know my first husband was garbage .I liked this guy but both we were married at that time.I have self respect and said to myself this is just wrong I cant have anything with this guy.He is married.I felt so bad .I will never forget he even had the nerve and took me to his house.I sat on the couch not even in two minutes I told him.Get me out of here.I wanted to go home.I could not take a man that is not mine that is just not right.You imagine? If I was able to get out of there anyone can.He was so goodlooking hmm I tell you BUT I HAVE DECENCY AND MORALS%26gt;I LEFT THE PLACE RIGHT AWAY %26gt;If I did it ANYONE CAN%26gt;





I dont regret walking away.He never called me again .I saw him once and we talk for little bit and then I realized thanks god .I didnt feel on that trap.i did the right thing.
Sorry, never dated one....


But I think women do it to get things (guilt and hush gifts) and because they do not want to be tied down...and most women eventually think of marriage.


They rarely ever work.....if by work you mean leave the wife. Most men cheat on one wife, they will most likely cheat on another one.


Morals are a hard thing to find.
Sexuality pursuing, emotional security, financial concern, infatuation, psycho unexplained reason, revenge, jealousy,





well, that's some to describe someone who pursued Mr/Mrs. 80%.
Most men can barely ';Take care of'; their family, let alone some side whore.








Just saying.








Fact is, we have a lots of scumbag men and women who lack morals, and are worse than homeless dogs on the street.
Because they are selfish jerks who only care about themselves. Their personalities never grew out of the childish ';id'; stage.
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  • am married and I have been thinking and having dreams of a boyfriend I had 8 years ago non-stop! Please help?

    I have thought about him non-stop for this 8 years. I often have dreams of us being in love in my dreams.





    What does this mean??, Anyone else have this happen to them.


    I do feel guilty being married and this is on my mind, now I do love my husband. I just need to know what is going on. am married and I have been thinking and having dreams of a boyfriend I had 8 years ago non-stop! Please help?
    Dreams aren't always what they seem... Maybe the life you had with your ex 8 years ago was a very different time in your life. Maybe you didn't learn something you were supposed to then, so your subconscious is playing it over and over for you until you realize it... maybe journal your dreams? make a note of EVERY part of your dream... the colors used, the clothes being worn, what the area looked like, every little detail.. even if the edges are smokey or anything like that..





    when you keep journaling what you dream, it'll help your conscious mind connect with your subconscious mind and maybe you'll realize what you need to learn. :) Good luck!!! am married and I have been thinking and having dreams of a boyfriend I had 8 years ago non-stop! Please help?
    This is all I could find.





    Ex-Boyfriend





    To see an old ex-boyfriend from childhood in your dream, refers to a freer, less encumbered relationship. The dream servers to bring you back to a time where the responsibilities of adulthood (or marriage) didn't interfere with the spontaneity of romance. You need to recapture the excitement, freedom, and vitality of youth that is lacking in your present relationship.





    To dream that your ex-boyfriend is giving you advice about your current relationship, suggests that you unconscious is telling you not to repeat the same mistakes that you had made with this ex-boyfriend.





    To dream that you are being massaged by your ex-boyfriend, suggests that you need to let go of some of that defensiveness that you have been putting forth. You may have been putting up a wall or armor around you. You need to learn to trust people again.





    To dream that you ex-boyfriend gives you a stuffed animal, suggests that you are seeking for reassuring and nurturing aspects of a relationship. This is not to imply that you want you ex-boyfriend back. Alternatively, the dream could represent some immature relationship which may (or may not) describe the relationship you had with your ex.





    To dream that you see your ex-boyfriend dressed in a suit at a hospital, suggests that you have come to terms with that relationship and have completed the healing process.






    You need to put things in perspective. This boyfriend is not the same guy now as he was eight years ago. I'm sure your dream pictures him like he used to be. Just imagine him as a pudgy, self-centered guy, still not married, and looking for a job. I know this is exaggerated, but you are living in the past. it's time to grow up and appreciate the man you are married to. Only you can change the way you think. Force yourself to quit thinking about the old boyfriend...don't dwell on him. Just be grateful for what you have now and move on. This is kind of like dreaming about a handsome movie star. The dream is great, but that's all it is...a dream. it is not reality. it's time to grow up.
    Yes. I married too! I always think of this past super awesome girlfriend that I had in the deep past. She was the ultimate best woman in my life! Her name was Jennifer Chic. I will never, ever forget the extremely good happy times we had together! She was an awesome ';Life of a Party'; chic. She love to party out, drink lots of ice cold beers, shoot pool, go swimming, go jet skiing, to the beach, to the movie and then making out billions of times, we hangout together with other crazy, silly friends and other couples. She had awesome parents and brothers and sisters. WE both had billions of things in common with each other. I wish that I could somehow find her back. I am not sure if she is still alive today as we speak!!!! The last time that I saw her was over 19 years ago. I wish I could turn back the hands of time and stay there with her-forever! If I could go back somehow, into time, I would beg her to marry me. Things would of been alot different. We were both extremely, extremely fully happy and content with each other. She was extremely awesome! All of my buddy friends loved her! She was totally outgoing and very sociable with everyone!
    ok: 3rd party advice here. My ex (and my very first love 11 years ago) recently contacted me and we had a 3 month affair. He's married I'm not. He told me that he hadn't been able to stop thinking about me for the past 11 years and always felt as though something was missing in his life while I wasn't in it. Your question mentions that you love your husband and I'm sure you absolutely do. However, maybe you feel as though something in your marriage is missing that your ex provided you while you and he were together?
    I guess you should get a divorce. You are still in love with your old boyfriend.





    Your boyfriend must be the one who dumped you. You still want to be with him. Shame on you.





    I pitty your poor husband. He doesn't even know that his wife dreams of other men.
    Is there some feeling or pleasure or bond you had with this guy back then that you don't have now with your husband? If there is a void, or you have a need, give your hubby a chance to fill it.
    u need a change of selection

    Someone who entered the US illegally has now married a US Citizen. How can they become legal? STEPS?

    I have a friend who married an illegal alien (entered the country illegally) but has been here 10 years and has been married three. What would be the steps to become legal?Someone who entered the US illegally has now married a US Citizen. How can they become legal? STEPS?
    First you need to see an immigration lawyer(usually free consultation)


    Then you need to file the I-130 and send copies of marriage license, birth certificates, etc. and file all other forms listed and/or sent to you.


    Lastly, you will wait for an appointment in his/her country to decide if they will be allowed to be legal.





    Note: Be honest...read carefully...and only send copies of licenses and documents! You will be required to send money(via check or money order) and this process will take time!!! Be patient and know that there is a chance that they will be denied!!!


    Best wishes and I hope I have helped!!!Someone who entered the US illegally has now married a US Citizen. How can they become legal? STEPS?
    technically they must leave the country and apply and re-enter... but based on what i see, depending on the countries they are from, they can just plead their case and just apply from here (like mexico, and some european countries)... most people need to apply from their home country otherwise face deportation


    they best thing to do is get an immigration lawyer and work on the case
    It's possible. It does involve going back to the home country but they don't have to go right away. They can get deported at any time though.





    It's a very long and stressful process and there are no guarantees.





    Here are the steps outlined:





    http://immigrate2us.net/forum/showthread鈥?/a>
    I believe the Illegal has to go back to their own country and then the citizen petitions them to come here.





    At this point, the illegal is subject to deportation if caught.
    you can't, not any more


    unless you friend finds a way to go back to his country and completly erase all evidence that he resided legally in the US
    I guess your friend would have the same way all legalization processes begin, by filing.





    After that, it really depends on a lot of factors such as where the illegal alien came from and what year he/she arrived. Depending on the policies that the US might have at the moment, they might even require that the illegal alien go back to her/his country until the US reaches a decision on their case. Predominantly most of the illegals who go back in hopes to hear a positive response on their case find that once back in their country, the US rejects or ask for more information on their legalization case. When they are told to go back, it is for years not months (this is the year he/she arrived and where they came from come into place).





    After this process is dealt with, I think it goes back into the same pattern. Immigration will go check up on the couple to make sure it is a legitimate marriage and not only a marriage of citizenship interest. This process could take as long 5-10 years depending on their case.





    Also, if the person is illegal and has no source of documentation, for example not even a work permit, her/his chances of being approved are slim to none since a work permit shows that person has at least taken a step in trying to follow US policies. So, to get this process started, the couple better have some major cash funding for this because it gets pricy. Also, if they will be using an attorney, they should do their research because I have heard of cases where some attorneys just run off with their clients' money or give the wrong legal advice.
    Cannot apply for the green card unless she goes back to her country and start the petition. It will be very hard for her even if she goes back to her country and to apply for a visa. The visa usually get deny if they ever come to usa illegally.

    What happens when someone in the military gets married?

    do they get more money because they are married? does their spouse have to live with them? do they provide them with a house? i want the 411.What happens when someone in the military gets married?
    The service member is entitled to Basic Allowance for Housing, which can either be used to get a home off base or to pay for base housing. If the service member is stationed overseas on a base where dependent aren't allowed then he will get BAH for the area his dependents are located and will live in the barracks. If he is stationed stateside then he will get BAH for his duty station regardless of where his dependents are located. The spouse doesn't have to live with them but if they choose not to then the military won't pay the service member extra BAH because of it.





    They will get an extra $300 for Basic Allowance for Substance if they wasn't already getting it. Technically, everybody already gets it but single troops who live in the barracks have it automatically taken from them because the military provides them with food.What happens when someone in the military gets married?
    The Soldier will receive more housing pay for being married. If you have children, the pay will NOT change. The couple will get to live together in most locations. There are some places like Qatar or Kuwait where the Soldier cannot take family members. You will have the option to live on post in a house or apt, depending on your location. There is usually a waiting list. If you do not live on post, the Soldier will be paid to live off post hence the name housing pay or BAH (basic housing allowance).
    They will be entitled to BAH and BAS. If they live on post the BAH will cover the housing. If you find a place cheaper than the amount of BAH (and utilities) you can pocket the extra money.





    No your spouse doesn't have to live with you. The BAH will be based off of the service members duty location except during basic. The service member will not be allowed to live in the barracks so maintaining two households is hard.





    You can apply for on post housing but there is usually a wait.





    Don't marry for benefits.
    If the service member is living in the barracks, he will begin recieving BAS once being married (around $300 a month for food) he will either get BAH per month, or get on post housing. Depending on your rank BAH for lower enlisted is around $900 per month, depending on where you are living, and the cost of living there, could be higher or lower. No the spouse does NOT have to live with the service member, but you will not get more money being away and living seperately. On deployments he will get about $250 extra a month. That is about all the 411. Oh yea, you will get free health care, and access to on post facilites. (gym MWR stuff like that)

    Why do you need premarital course before getting married?

    We are gonna be getting married and want to know what this course is for. Any great answers are cool.Why do you need premarital course before getting married?
    It's basic stuff. You know most of it already. Basically it's how to be in a relationship 101. It is your chance to prove how good you are at being married.





    You should go if for no other reason then it will allow you to bring up topics that you would never even think about.





    Such as - Will we have a dishwasher? Or will washing the dishes be a family activity?





    You might even get in a few fights over the topics. Though if you talk about them now, then you might have less trouble laterWhy do you need premarital course before getting married?
    You don't need a premarital course.





    Making a marriage last and be enjoyable is pretty much the same as the rules for living a happy life.





    1 - Consider the other person





    2 - Find out what makes them feel loved, and do those things (often these are little things, but don't make assumptions. People are different and it's much easier to just ask your partner what makes then feel loved, then they also know that when you do those things you understand that it tells them you love them).





    3 - Give each other space. Whatever anyone says - everyone needs the space to think about themselves and have their own hobbies/pursuits. It can be tempting at first to give up things you enjoy in order to spend time with your loved one, but over time those compromises bubble into regret or resentment. Make sure you both don't forgo things which are important to you.





    4 - Do little things every day to make your partner smile.





    Many men think that big gestures put feelings in the bank, but women prefer lots of regular small gestures to irregular overblown ones.





    5 - For women, support your partner in his aspirations and let him feel like he is creating a future for you both. Even if you don't think he can achieve something - your support is valuable to him being motivated to see it through.





    6 - Don't go to bed without resolving an argument. Waking up with bad feelings from the day./night before is not a good way to start the day.





    Follow that advice and you should have no worries.
    There isn't enough room to write about this.





    Marriage holds *so* much in terms of practical needs, practical requirements and things that have to be sorted and worked out. And it's helpful if as many of these things are worked out in advance as possible.





    Marriage is work, it's tough, and it's adult.





    It's not just ';advanced dating';.





    And just ';being in love'; is in no way no way no way enough.





    People in their twenties--particularly guys--change more during their twenties than during their teens. You're not who you're going to be for the rest of your life. So guidance is helpful before making a commitment wherein your life will *never* be the same again.





    And when kids come along, your life, ***as you once knew it***, is *gone*. --Not for the worse, no way. Just gone. And you need to be *totally* aware of *all* the changes that are going to come your way. The sad fact is, most people are only dimly aware, if not totally unaware.





    I was lucky enough to marry the love of my life, but my timing and the order I did things plus my maturity levels were all screwed up, and counseling would have helped avert a ton of hurt, let me tell you.





    And yes, some people, when asked the tough questions and faced to face the tough issues, will decide not to marry. *They shouldn't*. Better to find out now than twenty years hence, that for instance, nah, the girl you married doesn't really like sex. It hurts. She just did it for you. --I've heard the stories, and I'm as serious as I can be.





    I don't think any man should get married before he's 30. And pre-marital counseling should be law. With a 50% divorce rate, courts clogged to overflowing, and judges having to rule on 20 divorce cases a day just to get through their dockets, the price in tax dollars and human suffering (especially the kids) is incalculable.





    Take the course. Take two. I can't emphasize it enough.
    It's usually a way to prep for marriage. Your premarital counselor will stress the importance of mutual respect, honest communication, trust, and fidelity (and will incorporate religious aspects if you are receiving premarital counseling from someone in your church). It's not meant to be scary or intimidating, and the person isn't going to try to tell you how to run your life. Go with an open mind. There will be some advice you find priceless, and some that you will wan to roll your eyes over, but it's a learning experience, and you'll both come out a little wiser. :)
    I don't know anyone who has done it, but with the divorce rates soooo high it makes sense. You never really know what to expect when you get married. A lot of people think it's just fun and games and romance, but in truth it's tough!! Guessing I would say they probably have you fake fight and give advice as to how to control your emotions and learn to talk things out, as well as how to fully communicate everything. Wonderful idea, and if nothing else, it will show you both that you are definetly in it for the long haul.
    Well the high divorce rate has brought this about in some places and churches - you don't mention WHO or WHAT is making you do this... but if you are going to get married why not be as PREPARED as possible for the relationship %26amp; future together. Take it as an opportunity and learn from it.





    I highly recommend a BOOK called ';The Five Love Languages'; (Chapman) too for anyone in a long term relationship or marriage - it is really worthwhile and helps a LOT!
    Would you take a course, a seminar or seek advice before comitting to buying a house, a car, choosing a good school or even before going to see a movie?





    Consider that marriage is for the long haul. Ideally (or so you say during your VOWS) - till death to you part!!





    A great man once said that a wise man, as a course of action, will seek advice.
    it is so you both talk about how you feel about important adult issues that will come up in your marriage. it is so you find out these things before you have marriage and kids.





    i was once engaged and went to this twice, at the end of the second session i was so appalled at the fiance i now realized i didnt know at all and what i now knew i was horrified at that i broke up with him right then and there. i was very young and it was a brief engagement a long time ago, but, there you are. proof it works.





    i did it again years later with my fine fiance who became my husband 30 years ago, worked again.
    A lot of religious groups are requiring counseling before they willl marry anyone. It just make you communicate a lot of different issues that some people dont ever talk about before they are married. Sometimes these other issues if not worked out can be overwhelming and become a cause for divorce.
    Keep communicate open


    Discussions of how the house will run..who pay the bills..financial issues..savings..working..


    planning of how daily routine of maintaining a relationship..
    Catholic churches require it before they'll allow couples to marry.
    You don't. Unless your Catholic.

    How long does it take for paper work to get processed in the Army after getting married?

    My fianc茅 who is in the Army and I are getting married in May. How long should it take for our paper work to go through? He is being sent to another base in July. Should it be finished by then? Then what should we expect after that?How long does it take for paper work to get processed in the Army after getting married?
    Depends on what your situation will be. There are several things involved here. You'll have to get an ID card, get enrolled in Deers and Tricare right away just to cover the basics.





    However, should you want to move into housing, you'll have to apply for that as well, and that can take anywhere from a day to months depending on the waiting list.





    Then, and this is the biggest issue, you'll have to wait for him to receive orders. If he's being reassigned within the USA, you'll be fine. However, if he's going overseas on an accompanied tour, you'll have to apply for that first. That can take a while, so you might not get to move with him right away. Like I said, that is for posts where dependents are allowed. If he's going to get a restricted tour, you'll have to remain in the USA by yourself.How long does it take for paper work to get processed in the Army after getting married?
    You can take the marriage certificate to DEERS and you should be good to go that same day. However the only problem I see is if he already has orders he needs to get them amended to bring you along at military expense.





    You husband will then start to collect BAH when he turns in the paperwork to finance as well though it may take one pay cycle to kick in. It will get back dated though. After that when you get to the next base he can request PTDY for 10 days to look for housing. Base housing usually has a waiting list. He also will need to get you enrolled in Tricare.
    Immediately as soon as the AD member goes to Personnel and shows the clerk the marriage certificate, your birth certificate and SSN card. If you are together then you can get an ID card right then. You are automatically entered into DEERS so there for qualify for Tricare Standard. If he already has his orders then he needs to get those amended to include you. If it is an overseas (OCONUS) location then that means you need command sponsorship. To get cs you need to go through a medical and dental screening (EFMP).
    It's usually processed right then and there. The first process is to get enrolled in DEERS, then you should receive a check list. The sooner you get it all checked off, the better. GOOD LUCK!
    It shouldn't take too long, me and my wife got married in Oct. and our paperwork was through in about 2 weeks. Hope that helps.

    Monday, December 28, 2009

    What should I make for dinner/dessert for my friends? I invited over a married couple and one single friend?

    They're all pretty easy going, no one too picky. But I'd like to make something kinda unique. They can get pizza, spaghetti or baked chicken anywhere! Is there something else for dinner (and dessert) that I could make for 4 people without *too* much hassle?What should I make for dinner/dessert for my friends? I invited over a married couple and one single friend?
    Coq au Vin


    Sirloin tips in Vidalia Gravy served over Farfalle


    Italian Sausage, Peppers and Onions


    Chicken Paprika


    Beef Stroganoff


    Herbed Pork Roast


    Chili Rojo, Frijoles, Mexican Rice, Tortillas


    Enchiladas, Tamales, Pozole


    Herbed Fish


    Grilled Ribs with grilled vegetables


    Pasta with Homemade Pesto


    Szechuan Shrimp and Vegetable Fried Rice


    Greek Chicken and Potatoes


    Stuffed Flank Steak


    Jalapeno Beer Bratwurst and Jicama Slaw





    Triple Chocolate Cake


    Cheesecake


    Coconut Pudding


    Lemon Sorbet


    Apple or cherry crispWhat should I make for dinner/dessert for my friends? I invited over a married couple and one single friend?
    you should make coq au vin(stewed chicken in a red or white wine sauce) then for dessert make a moulten chocolate cake with vanilla ice cream.


    Coq au vin is pretty simple to make and everyone will enjoy it you just brown up the chicken add some bacon, mushrooms, pearl onions chicken stock flour add the chicken and let it simmer on low untill chicken is tender.
    There are lots of things you could make. You could try center cut porkchops I love them baked just sprinkle with salt pepper garlic salt put them in a shallow glass baking dish fill with water almost to the top of the chops add a few spoons of butter and what i call a magic touch which would be italian salad dressing sounds weird but it tastes great just pour all over top of chops then cover with aluminum and bake at around 325 to 350 for about 90 mins then take aluminum off all the while keeping an eye on the water level to brown them for a few minutes. minimal prep but delicious. Add random side item green beans corn on cob a salad...etc





    as for dessert or maybe something else try browsing around on the foo networks website im sure they would have some great ideas that would peak your interest!
    BBQ cheeseburgers with onion rings and a side salad or a salad as an appetizer or starter!!!! For dessert maybe you could make big chocolate chip cookies and put ice cream in the middle and freeze them. they are sooo goood !!! my sister in law made them for new years and I had two of them. basically they are big cookies with ice cream in the middle. Good Luck !! I hope you do well and your guests love whatever you make for them !!!
    A cheese fondue would be fun, if you have or can borrow a fondue pot or something that would substitute for it. You can pick up crusty rolls to dip, add some unusual pickled veggies. Serve fresh fruit for dessert.
    Spaghetti. With baked chicken.


    And salad on the side.


    Wine or water to drink.


    For dessert a gelatin with fruit in it.
    Every try something Italian but rare? Like say...pizza but with different toppings, hmm could be anything really.
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  • Can we change the date we were married on our Marriage certificate?

    We were married in 1999, but want to legally change it to 1990. The reason is purely because we wish we were married before our children from previous marriages were born. They obviously know their bio parents. No secrets or anything. It would just be a symbolic thing for us. You know, a wish.Can we change the date we were married on our Marriage certificate?
    No, you can't change it. Find a different symbolic way to commemorate your relationship. I find your desire to bump things back to befopre your kids were born to be puzzling. If that indeed had been the case, none of your children would be here, because each child is a unique human being from your former relationships.Can we change the date we were married on our Marriage certificate?
    Ummm...NO! SO u'd like ur wedding certificate to say you were married to A when the kids birth certificates will say their dad/mum is B and C. WOuldnt like to be doing ur family tree down the track. Your marriage certificate is like a legal binding document. If u find out let me know so i can get a few years shaved off my birth certificate.
    Sorry, but no. A marriage certificate is a legal document and legal documents cannot be ';adjusted'; to suit your fancy or wishes.
    no dont think you can do that sorry.
    No you can't.
    No, that is against the Law and would render your marriage ';fraudulent';.
    No you can't.
    can you change the date on a legal document? what do you think?
    Ask Obama. He could probably give you some tips on how to falsify it.
    It's a legal document, so.....no.

    I married a catholic. I have never been baptized and would like to have my baby brought up catholic. ?

    I married a catholic. I have never been baptized and would like to have my baby brought up catholic. I was married prior and divorced. What steps do I need to do to make this happen. Thank you so kindly in advance for your help.I married a catholic. I have never been baptized and would like to have my baby brought up catholic. ?
    Why condemn the child to a life of false teachings ?


    What did it do to you to deserve such punnishment ?I married a catholic. I have never been baptized and would like to have my baby brought up catholic. ?
    I can't completely understand your personal situation from the facts that you have outlined. I assume that you are asking what it will take for your child to be baptized Catholic and then continue the child's faith formation.





    It will depend on the priest and deacon that is doing the baptizing. They are all different and will interject their own personal views. My recommendation is that you pick out a priest or deacon and talk to them. If your spouse doesn't know one personally and you have more than one to pick from at your church, pick one out based on their homilies. That way you have a ';connection'; to them when you meet.





    Here are the rules that may or may not be followed by the priest or deacon.


    - One or both of the parents must be practicing Catholics and willing to raise the child in the Catholic faith.





    Here are rules that may be imposed on your particular situation in order for your spouse to be considered a Catholic in good standing. Some priests or deacons may require this, but I don't think that it will happen. I just want to prepare you in case it does.


    Because he/she married a divorced man, he/she will not be considered in good standing unless your marriage has been blessed


    - Since you are divorced, you may have to go through an annulment process. This may take a year, but there really shouldn't be a problem in your case.


    - Then, your marriage will have to be validated in the Catholic church and your spouse will be a Catholic in good standing.


    - Then, your baby will be baptized.





    One of the most fulfilling processes to go through is RCIA whether or not you are considering becoming Catholic - it will teach you why Catholics believe what they do. And, if you are inclined to become Catholic, I recommend that you go through the RCIA process. It is starting up now for baptisms on Easter vigil. More than likely your priest will baptize both you and your baby together during the Easter vigil Mass. This will become a beautiful experience for both you and your baby.






    If your baby is already born, your spouse (who is Catholic) can go ahead and arrange the baptism with the priest of your parish.





    If you would also like to be baptized, you can enroll in RCIA courses. Some have started just in the past couple weeks, but it's not difficult to get caught up. Then you can learn about Catholicism and decide if you want to become Catholic and get baptized/confirmed all at once.





    You were married prior to this marriage? If your second marriage occurred in the Catholic Church, then that first marriage was already annulled. If your second marriage was NOT in the Catholic Church and your first marriage was not annulled, you and your husband have a problem - him in particular because marriage is a sacrament in the Catholic Church and if he didn't get dispensation to marry you and you didn't get an annulment first, he is potentially in a state of mortal sin (that's very bad).





    Okay, so the baby's baptism can go on, no problem, but you and your husband need to sit down with the priest ASAP to get the marriage thing worked out. Your first marriage needs to be declared null. If it was a non-religious wedding, it will be easy. If it was a religious wedding, it might be more difficult.





    Anyway, once that first marriage is taken care of, then you can have your current marriage blessed, and then there's no fear of mortal sin.
    You certainly wish the best for your child, and I admire your desire to bring her up in the Catholic faith. Being able to do so does not depend at all on your beliefs nor on your marital status. Yes, one parent is required to be a practicing Catholic, and most parishes ask that you be registered in the parish at least 6 months prior to the baptism. We take baptism very seriously and want to make sure that the family is being fed in the faith, not just going through the baptism and never being heard from again. Same reason we ask that couples be registered 6 months prior to marriage - we want to make sure that they don't just want to get married in a nice church building but rather live out the faith that they profess at the altar.





    If you encounter any resistance (ie, if a priest or deacon tells you that you need an annulment first or anything like that), politely thank him and go to the archdiocese. In the Catholic Church, no child is illegitimate - all children (even adult children) are welcome into the Church and are eligible for baptism. The only difference with adults is that they go through the RCIA process first.





    Now, if YOU would like to become Catholic (and I congratulate you if this is your wish), you will need to attend RCIA. It is an enriching experience. You will learn so much and discover such a depth of Christ's Truth.





    If you and your husband would like your marriage blessed in the Catholic Church (I'm assuming you didn't marry in the Church - or if you did already, this is a moot point), you will need an annullment. However, not having one should not prevent you from enjoying the Mass and the life of the parish community.





    Please pay no attention to what the naysayers here say about the Catholic Church - if they understood us, they would join us, or at least respect us.
    You can have your child baptized and raise the child in the Catholic faith.





    There will be some baptism preparation to attend. As others have suggested you may want to attend RCIA classes, not to become Catholic, but tofully understand the Catholics believe. Of course, if you choose to become Catholic we will welcome you.
    I don't think your prior marriage and divorce will have any effect on your child's baptism. Talk to a priest about it. They usually do require both parents and Godparents to attend baptism classes ( one or two) in preparation for the baby's baptism. Good luck!
    According to Catholic doctrine, you don't have a choice but to raise your kids Catholic because you married a Catholic.
    First you need to be baptized and then let your child get baptized too.


    But, you have to believe strongly in what you are doing and want it from all of your heart!
    I married a Catholic, too. I grew up Southern Baptist, so I am aware of the basis or cause of some of the more vile reactions to your question. You should ignore those, of course, as those folks have never really looked into the Catholic faith properly. Indeed, I did not either until I was 62 years old. I then converted to Catholicism after giving it a fair hearing and studying their rationale for their thinking and practices. They really make the most sense, and the Catholic mass service is truly geared to focusing on Jesus in a way protestants pretty much miss.





    You should indeed immediately see the priest and should ask about attending the RCIA course for adults who need to know about the Catholic religion. At the end of that effort of several months of weekly meetings, you will be far better prepared for what you got yourself into. You will also be a lot happier knowing the whys and wherefores, and you will likely decide to convert.





    I attended mass for 25 years as we raised our two daughters in the Catholic church. I did not convert, being unfamiliar with the reasons that Catholics do what they do and, also, have been essentially taught to ';hate'; Catholic beliefs as a youth. Our daughters grew up with an ambiguous split family attitude on the religious parts of their lives, something that is now regrettable as they now fall short of the religious intensity and grace of their own mother's example.





    One key issue you face is not being able to take communion since this is not appropriate for you to do in the Catholic church as someone who does not understand or subscribe to (believe) Catholic teachings. This key issue is better understood once you understand that Catholics are expected to perceive that (believe that) the wine and bread are indeed the actual body and blood of Christ, not just symbolic. In doing this, while it seems alien to protestants, the effect on the believer is much stronger (holier impact) and more appropriate as it challenges and inspires all the way to the soul. The Catholics do this every Mass, and it is the focus of every mass.





    So, if you are not actually a Catholic believer, your participation in communion would degrade the experience of others, including the priests since they are taught to strive to present themselves to be as humble as Jesus and act as Jesus would in dealing with you and with all others. I spent 25 years thinking that they were just on a control trip, but I never really looked into it. I then went back to attending a Southern Baptist church for 15 years before I actually took the trouble to look into the Catholic church more fairly.





    The other (many other) differences that seem alien to protestants are mostly intended to also enhance the experience (religious inspiration level) and actually make a lot of sense. For example, Catholics believe (they use the word ';hope'; often, actually, which makes a lot of sense) that their deceased relatives went to heaven and are still alive in heaven. Before they died and went to heaven, we asked them for their advice and help, so why not do so after they go to heaven?





    Thus, Catholics feel free to talk to the deceased (pray to them) as well as the ';saints'; who truly were inspirational persons while in this Earthly existence, in the hope of getting some help with communicating with Jesus. This includes talking with (praying to) Jesus' mother Mary. Many protestants are taught that Catholics ';worship'; Mary, which is not really the intent, but even if it were they truly worship Jesus much more. The statues and images also facilitate getting into a holy frame of reference as they simply make it less necessary to rely on one's limited imagination.





    Again, the entire Catholic mass is geared around worshiping Jesus at a level significantly above what most protestants are able to achieve. I have never seen anyone asleep at a Catholic mass or even nodding off. I have seldom attended a protestant service where people were not nodding off or sound asleep, even in the choir.





    So, my advice to anyone marrying a Catholic is to join up and start being a good Catholic. You will find that learning about all of this as an adult will likely make you a better Catholic and allow you to experience a better connection to Jesus than even those who were raised Catholic. I can vouch for it, if not guarantee it.





    I remember being taught in Baptist Sunday School as a teenager that the worst thing about being the child of a Baptist missionary is that the Catholic kids throw rocks at you. Even as a teenager I realized that such teachings are propaganda and inappropriate. You will be pleased to know that Catholics do not teach their youth such things about protestants. In this respect, I have come to realize that the average Catholic is far more like Jesus than the average protestant.





    Again, logic and experience will prove me right once you get into it. If it does not work out for you, you can always go
    You've been divorced, your going to personally have issues there. They'll be more than happy to baptize your child (worthless though), but you'll most likely never be able to participate in mass and many other things. My advice is get away from that organization. There are so many issues with them that are just not Biblical it's not funny.





    Just so you know, if you have your child baptized, this does nothing for his salvation. It will do away with nothing. Don't be fooled. You will not find infant baptism in the bible anywhere except the verses they (CC) will want you to believe. Bottom line, baptism is a cleansing of sins, can you ask your child if he/she understands what sin is and what sins they committed. Until you have an understand of what sin is, your baptism means nothing.





    Just My Thoughts!

    W/ the new government refund, since I am married will it count as a family or will we each count as individual

    ?





    I just got married in Dec. 07 and filed for the first time as married jointly. We have no children. Will we each get the individual amount or the family amount? Thanks!W/ the new government refund, since I am married will it count as a family or will we each count as individual
    First, you will get the ';family amount'; of $1200.00.





    Second, it really doesnt matter because the ';individual amount is $600.00 which is half of $1200.00. So even if you and you spouse both got the ';individual amount';, you would still be getting $1200.00 in the end.W/ the new government refund, since I am married will it count as a family or will we each count as individual
    you will get the family amount because u r now legally married. but u actually et more for filing together.
    You will count as a family since you were married in the tax year.
    since you are married you will be considered a family. your rebate amount will be the amount for amarried couple. if you have children your rebate will increase $300 for each child. the only way you would be considered single for the tax rebate would be is if you filed married filing separately [mfs]

    Can married people file separate bankruptcy or do we have to file together?

    I don't want to file with my husband. I could lose my car if I do. He went out and financed a car behind my back, which will have a bearing on me keeping my paid off car or it being sold to pay most of which are his debts.Can married people file separate bankruptcy or do we have to file together?
    Bankruptcy is an individual thing. He can file separately. His discharge, if you were a co-signor wont help you though as to that specific obligation and incomes of both parties may also be considered by the judge.

    How long it takes when applying for a married child for the petition to be deny or approved?

    I am a citizen already. I heard it takes 2 months being that it is the first step of the process, but how long after they will give the PR if approved?How long it takes when applying for a married child for the petition to be deny or approved?
    Although it will take only a month or two for approval, there is a quota waiting list for visas in that category of around 10 years. The child will not be allowed to remain in the US


    to await the priority date for visa issuance.How long it takes when applying for a married child for the petition to be deny or approved?
    It's takes nine years from the time of filing before an F3 petition is valid for use, double that for Filipinos and Mexicans.

    Saturday, December 26, 2009

    Getting married in California and to a man in the Marines. What all will I need?

    My Fiance is in the marines and is stationed in california.


    Well I am flying out there the 31st-4th.


    We thought about maybe getting married.





    What all should I take with me just incase we do get married.





    Also what papers will need filled out for the military and all that good stuff.





    Also I live on the east coast. I'll need proof that I live in my state right?


    He is from here also but was stationed there.Getting married in California and to a man in the Marines. What all will I need?
    You will have to meet California marriage laws.Getting married in California and to a man in the Marines. What all will I need?
    Money.





    Your drivers license, social security card, certified copy of birth certificate, divorce decree if you've been married before. Certified copy of marriage license after you get married. They don't usually give them to you right after you get married because they have to go to the state registrar. He'll need to call the county clerk's office to get specific requirements for that county.





    The best thing your fiance can do is check with base personnel office to see what all needs to be done. He'll need to take you there to enroll you in DEERS and to get you an ID card. Not sure where you'll have to go to get BAH started, Orderly room or finance office.
    THe ';Hardest Job in the Marine Corps'; is:


    Being a Marine Wife !!!
    Just a back pack and hiking boots.........maybe a canteen:) Sorry can't help you ..........enjoy that leather-neck, and all the best to both of you.
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  • What would you do if you just got married and your wife or husband wants to stay a virgin?

    Explain your reasons. Would you respect your spouse's choice? After all, it's his or her body and not everyone is interested in ';making love'; secondly, would you accept that you married for love and not lust? In this case, there is so much more than what goes on in the bedroom.What would you do if you just got married and your wife or husband wants to stay a virgin?
    I would probably feel a little disappointed, especially since that would mean I could never have kids, but I think i would respect their choices and I suppose i can always adopt kids, or be a foster home..


    I think it would be nice to know someone had wanted to marry me out of love and not out of lust.





    On the other hand, it means that that person isn't attracted to me physically, which would sting a little, but like i said i think i could get used to it. No sex, i can live with, but so long as we still have a deep emotional connection reckon i could live with it.What would you do if you just got married and your wife or husband wants to stay a virgin?
    Staying a virgin in my house would not be an option. This would be discussed before we decided to get married. But first I would look at the reasoning behind why they wanted to stay a virgin. In my opinion the purpose of marriage is to be in a committed relationship and eventually have a family. If we were not going to do that then I would not marry. Having sex with someone you love is not ';lust'; it is just another way to show that person you love them. Lust happens when you sleep with some one just because you want to have sex with them.
    This is something that SHOULD have been discussed before the marriage took place. Sex is a big part of the overwhelming majority of marriages it is as close as two people can physically get and it's also how babies are made (unless of course you want to got he incredibly impersonal route of ejaculating into a cup and inseminating) . I would not want to marry a man who didn't want to make love to me, it's not just about lust, how sad that you think so little about what is (or should be) an incredible, wonderful experience between two people who love each other
    That is NOT love if the person is not willing to give the other their full body. Making love is very important in a marriage. In fact, the bible says that neglecting the spouse sexually is a logical and acceptable reason for divorce. I would talk with my spouse, and if he would not give in, I would get an annulment. You're right that marriage has a lot to do with other things, but sex is very important and healthy in a marriage.
    I would ask why this did not come up before the 'I do's'........and I am sorry, if the celibacy is by choice rather than by a physical problem, then I would quietly go my separate way because it's not my choice and to have it made for me would be terribly unfair....some one who chooses to be celibate had either not marry or make d@mn sure they are up front about it from the get-go. I would never be celibate if I had the choice, the intimate part of married love I would miss terribly as there's a closeness there that cannot be described in words, and I would always question why someone would choose not to share that closeness.......I would always feel that they were holding back a large part of who they are from me, and was choosing not to share themselves on an intimate level.
    That would be like being married to your best friend. You don't sleep with your best friend but you and your spouse should want to make love to each other. That is a huge part of marital intimacy and a big reason as why some marriages don't work out. That said, I cannot imagine marrying anyone without living with them first and having sex first. You don't buy a car without testdriving it and you don't walk into a marriage blind without knowing what that person is like in all aspects. Otherwise you may find yourself miserable in a situation you can't easily get out of if you had known what you did beforehand to save yourself the heartache.
    I would probably ask their reasons.


    but i would respect their choice once i understood, but i would probably get the marriage annulled (';making love'; is part of marriage)


    yes there is more than what goes on in the bedroom , but that is also a part of marriage and the virgin spouse should respect that too


    Men %26amp; women were created for each other, to be companions %26amp; part of the companionship is definiatly not being virgins.
    i would get an annulment immediately. them wanting to remain virgin would be a personal choice and not a mutual one...which of course is not very marriage-like. who says making love is only and act of 'lust'?





    it is a necessary sensory act that feeds the mind soul and heart, especially for a good marriage. there was a time that this act came before anyone realized that it produced children.
    Get the marriage annulled. Since it hasn't and won't be consummated, then it would be no problem.





    Getting married implies you are giving yourself over to the other, sharing all aspects of your life and self. So stating after you've gotten married that you wish to remain a virgin constitutes fraud through a lie, and therefore makes the contract of marriage void.
    Personally, I dont know if I could get merried to a girl who would never want to have sex. I mean, I dont belive in pre-merrital sex, so if I was to get merried, sex would be a HUGE perk. But if I really loved the girl, and wanted to be with her, than I would respect her wishes.


    Still... I dont know if I could stay a virgin forever... I would live... it would just be hard.


    Hope this helps a little, God bless.


    :)
    Since this wouldn't be a fulfilling relationship for me, I would have no choice but to leave it. I would respect their choice, but I would hope they would also respect mine. I would hold out in the hopes that i could find someone I could connect with both emotionally and physically.
    Well, maybe they are afraid of having sex since they have never done it before. I would sit down with them and explain my thoughts on it (that it is a bonding experience with your other half that will bring us together more.), and ask them why they don't want to have sex ever.


    This is so crazy though....is this happening to you? I'm so sorry you are in this position if you are!
    marriage actually must be CONSUMATED.





    if you married a person like that - they have severe psychological problems and need councellling.





    Also - they do not like you - not one bit - let alone love you.





    in short i have one final comment to this quesiton


    WTF WTF WTF
    i would try to find out why first and make sure all is ok and if there's no good resean i would have to leave i would'nt be able to understand why they would not want to it's a natural thing and something i could'nt live without, but give them a chance to explain first
    In my state, you aren't married until the vows are consummated. If one party refuses to consummate the marriage, the other party has grounds for an annulment.





    I would seek an annulment.
    No, I would wonder what the heck was wrong with him...lol.


    And everyone I know got married for love. Lust is a short term thing. Marriage is forever and for having a family. And you can't do that with a virgin spouse!
    I would definately ask them this before we got married. I have always wanted to have kids. If he loved me enough he'd respect me and realize that it would make me happy to have kids. So, I don't think it would work out if we didnt.
    You have to respect there choices but you have to discuss it with them because she has to respect your want for sex and she should be ready and if your married there has to be a different reason. Talk about it
    I think that would be a problem for me. I feel that sex is an important part of a relationship, while it's not all of it, it is important.
    If this was not discussed prior to the marriage, you can annul the marriage. It is fraud.
    well, why did you get married? The Bible even tells you that once married your body becomes your spoouses and you shall please them.
    As long as they were willing to do it when we were ready to have children I would be okay with it.
    I would feel hurt because I couldn't have that special intimate bond with him.
    i would divorce him if he wanted to remain a virgin after we got married
    I would be like wtf.

    To married men who have had or currently have pregnant wives?

    Is it true that you find your wives more physically and maybe sexually attractive when they are pregnant despite the bellies that hold your future kid? Tell me what you have felt and maybe have done during those times, that is if you are comfortable sharing.





    The reason I ask this is because I personally think that pregnant women still look beautiful and attractive even though they have a big belly with a kid inside.





    VIVA LA RAZA!To married men who have had or currently have pregnant wives?
    when she was pregnant she was more beautiful.initial months we were very careful and had sex everyday at least once but v v careful, not much banging.


    later we tried side by side method ,but it was difficult.


    then she use to sit in sofa i will stand and did,we had sex even 6 days before birth.


    but never put too much pressure on her.her breasts was becoming big day by day.


    she use to give me oral and masturbate me , so that i can avoid inserting.


    i use to insert only when she was very horney and really wanted a bang.


    but during pregnancy i haven't given oral to her,even though i enjoy licking and i can do that for hours.To married men who have had or currently have pregnant wives?
    When I was pregnant with our children, my husband said ';What could possibly be sexier than a woman carrying my child?';
    well my partner didnt he found it a big turn off :(
    im not a man, but my husband found me very attractive during both pregnancies. not sure if it was the life thing or what but it kept us close and healthy throughout. cant imagine what we would have done if he had found me repulsive

    Why do men or women get involved with married people?

    I thought I'd ask this question to see how people would respond. I would like people who are dating or have dated married people to answer. What happened in the relationship? Did he buy you things, take care of you? Do you think it could work?Why do men or women get involved with married people?
    I had no idea he was married when I became involved. I did not know until after I fell in love with him. I have cut off all physical relations with him, but I still care. He has bought me (and my children) things. (NO, the kids have not met him). I'm not sure if it will work. He says he's going to leave his wife, but until he does, I'm having no physical contact with him.Why do men or women get involved with married people?
    i'll answer this as best as i can.


    i was working as a personal trainer/group fitness instructor, when i was in college, struggling to pay bills/tuition.





    i worked at nice North Shore fitness club, where wives are married to millionaire husbands that care only about their work, treating their wives like crap.. all the wives do all day is work out and make themselves look good, but grossly under appreciated, ignored, etc etc... (but gets lots and lots of spending money).





    i pay attention to them, and i used to be invited for 'lunch'. i take care of them, emotionally and physically, and i get open legs and lots of expensive gifts. i get what i need.. sex and gifts, and they get what they crave.





    it was all good.








    (then i grew up)
    I was involved with a man who was engaged. It's not something I'm proud to admit. He was an ex-boyfriend who started calling me out of the blue. I hadn't been in a relationship in 2 years and I was very lonely. I knew he was engaged, I knew he was talking to me behind his fiance's back. He kept asking to see me and I kept declining. Finally I gave in. He didn't offer me anything but companionship. But then, everytime I saw him I would leave so angry because I kept thinking about what a jerk he was. He's still engaged and he still calls me about every 7 to 10 days. I'll pick up and talk to him once in a while when I'm bored, but I refuse to see him in person. He would never leave his fiance, and personally, I don't want to be in a relationship with him because I would always wonder what he's doing behind my back.
    this has recently become a topic in my life b/c my husband's best friend is sleeping with a married mother of 3....





    he claims he is lonely and she started the relationship and thats why he won't break it off.





    I don't know if its a thrill? or if someone being married makes them more attractive b/c they are good enough for someone else to marry.
    its usually the for the reason that a married person cannot give the commitment that is usually desired in most other relationships. many people don't want a commitment, thus desire another that already has one....no strings that way.


    no gifts, not the money, the thrill of the chase(and the occasional dinner) and not having to answer to anyone else. get what you want and go home.
    Married women get involved with me because I'm good looking , kind , considerate, open doors for them pay compliments on the new cloths , new hair style and I'm hung like a mule and know how to use it i have gave many their first vaginal orgasm, i guess the word gets out on a man like myself.
    No matter how attracted I was, or how well I got on with a married man, would I ever, ever, consider getting involved with one. Why would I need the extra burden of something like that in my life when I could easily get a single man with no ties? I don't understand why women do this.
    Why you ask!! My wife doesn't hold up her end of the marriage/sex and her husband is not around sometimes it's just fate that bring to people together, bottom line if my wife would only meet me halfway i would never even look at another woman so she owns 75% of it.
    Why do MARRIED people get involved with anyone other than their husband or wife?





    You don't want answers you just want people to rant!





    Yes, my love happily takes care of all my expenses, luxuries, wishes and anything I want.
    my ex husband left me and our kids for the mistress. they are still living together and i wish them the best of luck. will it work? it really depends on the person. but if you are thinking about it please don't do it. from all sides it's not fun.
    If someone is married and willing to cheat on their spouse to be with someone else, they will cheat on that person too. A relationship that starts with lies and deception will hardly ever work
    You can't help who you fall in love with.





    He buys me what ever i want takes care of all my needs.





    Only 72 more days until he tells his wife it's over
    I didnt date a married man but i sort of liked him and he wanted to sleep with me and be his so called mistress. I doubt it will work out. You could go through hell. Don't think about it.
    Less chance of STD's face it if their spouses were taking care of business they wouldn't be looking, i never have understood why my girlfriends don't sleep with their husbands.
    All the good ones are usually taken, plus its fun dealing with married men they usually have great exprience..
    Because that's what people (Whores) with no morals do.


    They lack respect for themselves and others.


    People who cheat with married people are...


    WORTHLESS individuals!
    No strings attatched
    You know why the do that because?


    1.Because they are trash.


    2.They have no respect for god or morals


    3.They dont care about other people feelings


    4.They are selfish they want what they want and that it!





    I tell you my story short.Years ago there was a guy who I liked a lot .I knew he was married .he never lied to me .i was married too.You know my first husband was garbage .I liked this guy but both we were married at that time.I have self respect and said to myself this is just wrong I cant have anything with this guy.He is married.I felt so bad .I will never forget he even had the nerve and took me to his house.I sat on the couch not even in two minutes I told him.Get me out of here.I wanted to go home.I could not take a man that is not mine that is just not right.You imagine? If I was able to get out of there anyone can.He was so goodlooking hmm I tell you BUT I HAVE DECENCY AND MORALS%26gt;I LEFT THE PLACE RIGHT AWAY %26gt;If I did it ANYONE CAN%26gt;





    I dont regret walking away.He never called me again .I saw him once and we talk for little bit and then I realized thanks god .I didnt feel on that trap.i did the right thing.
    Sorry, never dated one....


    But I think women do it to get things (guilt and hush gifts) and because they do not want to be tied down...and most women eventually think of marriage.


    They rarely ever work.....if by work you mean leave the wife. Most men cheat on one wife, they will most likely cheat on another one.


    Morals are a hard thing to find.
    Sexuality pursuing, emotional security, financial concern, infatuation, psycho unexplained reason, revenge, jealousy,





    well, that's some to describe someone who pursued Mr/Mrs. 80%.
    Most men can barely ';Take care of'; their family, let alone some side whore.








    Just saying.








    Fact is, we have a lots of scumbag men and women who lack morals, and are worse than homeless dogs on the street.
    Because they are selfish jerks who only care about themselves. Their personalities never grew out of the childish ';id'; stage.

    am married and I have been thinking and having dreams of a boyfriend I had 8 years ago non-stop! Please help?

    I have thought about him non-stop for this 8 years. I often have dreams of us being in love in my dreams.





    What does this mean??, Anyone else have this happen to them.


    I do feel guilty being married and this is on my mind, now I do love my husband. I just need to know what is going on. am married and I have been thinking and having dreams of a boyfriend I had 8 years ago non-stop! Please help?
    Dreams aren't always what they seem... Maybe the life you had with your ex 8 years ago was a very different time in your life. Maybe you didn't learn something you were supposed to then, so your subconscious is playing it over and over for you until you realize it... maybe journal your dreams? make a note of EVERY part of your dream... the colors used, the clothes being worn, what the area looked like, every little detail.. even if the edges are smokey or anything like that..





    when you keep journaling what you dream, it'll help your conscious mind connect with your subconscious mind and maybe you'll realize what you need to learn. :) Good luck!!! am married and I have been thinking and having dreams of a boyfriend I had 8 years ago non-stop! Please help?
    This is all I could find.





    Ex-Boyfriend





    To see an old ex-boyfriend from childhood in your dream, refers to a freer, less encumbered relationship. The dream servers to bring you back to a time where the responsibilities of adulthood (or marriage) didn't interfere with the spontaneity of romance. You need to recapture the excitement, freedom, and vitality of youth that is lacking in your present relationship.





    To dream that your ex-boyfriend is giving you advice about your current relationship, suggests that you unconscious is telling you not to repeat the same mistakes that you had made with this ex-boyfriend.





    To dream that you are being massaged by your ex-boyfriend, suggests that you need to let go of some of that defensiveness that you have been putting forth. You may have been putting up a wall or armor around you. You need to learn to trust people again.





    To dream that you ex-boyfriend gives you a stuffed animal, suggests that you are seeking for reassuring and nurturing aspects of a relationship. This is not to imply that you want you ex-boyfriend back. Alternatively, the dream could represent some immature relationship which may (or may not) describe the relationship you had with your ex.





    To dream that you see your ex-boyfriend dressed in a suit at a hospital, suggests that you have come to terms with that relationship and have completed the healing process.






    You need to put things in perspective. This boyfriend is not the same guy now as he was eight years ago. I'm sure your dream pictures him like he used to be. Just imagine him as a pudgy, self-centered guy, still not married, and looking for a job. I know this is exaggerated, but you are living in the past. it's time to grow up and appreciate the man you are married to. Only you can change the way you think. Force yourself to quit thinking about the old boyfriend...don't dwell on him. Just be grateful for what you have now and move on. This is kind of like dreaming about a handsome movie star. The dream is great, but that's all it is...a dream. it is not reality. it's time to grow up.
    Yes. I married too! I always think of this past super awesome girlfriend that I had in the deep past. She was the ultimate best woman in my life! Her name was Jennifer Chic. I will never, ever forget the extremely good happy times we had together! She was an awesome ';Life of a Party'; chic. She love to party out, drink lots of ice cold beers, shoot pool, go swimming, go jet skiing, to the beach, to the movie and then making out billions of times, we hangout together with other crazy, silly friends and other couples. She had awesome parents and brothers and sisters. WE both had billions of things in common with each other. I wish that I could somehow find her back. I am not sure if she is still alive today as we speak!!!! The last time that I saw her was over 19 years ago. I wish I could turn back the hands of time and stay there with her-forever! If I could go back somehow, into time, I would beg her to marry me. Things would of been alot different. We were both extremely, extremely fully happy and content with each other. She was extremely awesome! All of my buddy friends loved her! She was totally outgoing and very sociable with everyone!
    ok: 3rd party advice here. My ex (and my very first love 11 years ago) recently contacted me and we had a 3 month affair. He's married I'm not. He told me that he hadn't been able to stop thinking about me for the past 11 years and always felt as though something was missing in his life while I wasn't in it. Your question mentions that you love your husband and I'm sure you absolutely do. However, maybe you feel as though something in your marriage is missing that your ex provided you while you and he were together?
    I guess you should get a divorce. You are still in love with your old boyfriend.





    Your boyfriend must be the one who dumped you. You still want to be with him. Shame on you.





    I pitty your poor husband. He doesn't even know that his wife dreams of other men.
    Is there some feeling or pleasure or bond you had with this guy back then that you don't have now with your husband? If there is a void, or you have a need, give your hubby a chance to fill it.
    u need a change of selection

    Someone who entered the US illegally has now married a US Citizen. How can they become legal? STEPS?

    I have a friend who married an illegal alien (entered the country illegally) but has been here 10 years and has been married three. What would be the steps to become legal?Someone who entered the US illegally has now married a US Citizen. How can they become legal? STEPS?
    First you need to see an immigration lawyer(usually free consultation)


    Then you need to file the I-130 and send copies of marriage license, birth certificates, etc. and file all other forms listed and/or sent to you.


    Lastly, you will wait for an appointment in his/her country to decide if they will be allowed to be legal.





    Note: Be honest...read carefully...and only send copies of licenses and documents! You will be required to send money(via check or money order) and this process will take time!!! Be patient and know that there is a chance that they will be denied!!!


    Best wishes and I hope I have helped!!!Someone who entered the US illegally has now married a US Citizen. How can they become legal? STEPS?
    technically they must leave the country and apply and re-enter... but based on what i see, depending on the countries they are from, they can just plead their case and just apply from here (like mexico, and some european countries)... most people need to apply from their home country otherwise face deportation


    they best thing to do is get an immigration lawyer and work on the case
    It's possible. It does involve going back to the home country but they don't have to go right away. They can get deported at any time though.





    It's a very long and stressful process and there are no guarantees.





    Here are the steps outlined:





    http://immigrate2us.net/forum/showthread鈥?/a>
    I believe the Illegal has to go back to their own country and then the citizen petitions them to come here.





    At this point, the illegal is subject to deportation if caught.
    you can't, not any more


    unless you friend finds a way to go back to his country and completly erase all evidence that he resided legally in the US
    I guess your friend would have the same way all legalization processes begin, by filing.





    After that, it really depends on a lot of factors such as where the illegal alien came from and what year he/she arrived. Depending on the policies that the US might have at the moment, they might even require that the illegal alien go back to her/his country until the US reaches a decision on their case. Predominantly most of the illegals who go back in hopes to hear a positive response on their case find that once back in their country, the US rejects or ask for more information on their legalization case. When they are told to go back, it is for years not months (this is the year he/she arrived and where they came from come into place).





    After this process is dealt with, I think it goes back into the same pattern. Immigration will go check up on the couple to make sure it is a legitimate marriage and not only a marriage of citizenship interest. This process could take as long 5-10 years depending on their case.





    Also, if the person is illegal and has no source of documentation, for example not even a work permit, her/his chances of being approved are slim to none since a work permit shows that person has at least taken a step in trying to follow US policies. So, to get this process started, the couple better have some major cash funding for this because it gets pricy. Also, if they will be using an attorney, they should do their research because I have heard of cases where some attorneys just run off with their clients' money or give the wrong legal advice.
    Cannot apply for the green card unless she goes back to her country and start the petition. It will be very hard for her even if she goes back to her country and to apply for a visa. The visa usually get deny if they ever come to usa illegally.