I married a catholic. I have never been baptized and would like to have my baby brought up catholic. ?

I married a catholic. I have never been baptized and would like to have my baby brought up catholic. I was married prior and divorced. What steps do I need to do to make this happen. Thank you so kindly in advance for your help.I married a catholic. I have never been baptized and would like to have my baby brought up catholic. ?
Why condemn the child to a life of false teachings ?


What did it do to you to deserve such punnishment ?I married a catholic. I have never been baptized and would like to have my baby brought up catholic. ?
I can't completely understand your personal situation from the facts that you have outlined. I assume that you are asking what it will take for your child to be baptized Catholic and then continue the child's faith formation.





It will depend on the priest and deacon that is doing the baptizing. They are all different and will interject their own personal views. My recommendation is that you pick out a priest or deacon and talk to them. If your spouse doesn't know one personally and you have more than one to pick from at your church, pick one out based on their homilies. That way you have a ';connection'; to them when you meet.





Here are the rules that may or may not be followed by the priest or deacon.


- One or both of the parents must be practicing Catholics and willing to raise the child in the Catholic faith.





Here are rules that may be imposed on your particular situation in order for your spouse to be considered a Catholic in good standing. Some priests or deacons may require this, but I don't think that it will happen. I just want to prepare you in case it does.


Because he/she married a divorced man, he/she will not be considered in good standing unless your marriage has been blessed


- Since you are divorced, you may have to go through an annulment process. This may take a year, but there really shouldn't be a problem in your case.


- Then, your marriage will have to be validated in the Catholic church and your spouse will be a Catholic in good standing.


- Then, your baby will be baptized.





One of the most fulfilling processes to go through is RCIA whether or not you are considering becoming Catholic - it will teach you why Catholics believe what they do. And, if you are inclined to become Catholic, I recommend that you go through the RCIA process. It is starting up now for baptisms on Easter vigil. More than likely your priest will baptize both you and your baby together during the Easter vigil Mass. This will become a beautiful experience for both you and your baby.






If your baby is already born, your spouse (who is Catholic) can go ahead and arrange the baptism with the priest of your parish.





If you would also like to be baptized, you can enroll in RCIA courses. Some have started just in the past couple weeks, but it's not difficult to get caught up. Then you can learn about Catholicism and decide if you want to become Catholic and get baptized/confirmed all at once.





You were married prior to this marriage? If your second marriage occurred in the Catholic Church, then that first marriage was already annulled. If your second marriage was NOT in the Catholic Church and your first marriage was not annulled, you and your husband have a problem - him in particular because marriage is a sacrament in the Catholic Church and if he didn't get dispensation to marry you and you didn't get an annulment first, he is potentially in a state of mortal sin (that's very bad).





Okay, so the baby's baptism can go on, no problem, but you and your husband need to sit down with the priest ASAP to get the marriage thing worked out. Your first marriage needs to be declared null. If it was a non-religious wedding, it will be easy. If it was a religious wedding, it might be more difficult.





Anyway, once that first marriage is taken care of, then you can have your current marriage blessed, and then there's no fear of mortal sin.
You certainly wish the best for your child, and I admire your desire to bring her up in the Catholic faith. Being able to do so does not depend at all on your beliefs nor on your marital status. Yes, one parent is required to be a practicing Catholic, and most parishes ask that you be registered in the parish at least 6 months prior to the baptism. We take baptism very seriously and want to make sure that the family is being fed in the faith, not just going through the baptism and never being heard from again. Same reason we ask that couples be registered 6 months prior to marriage - we want to make sure that they don't just want to get married in a nice church building but rather live out the faith that they profess at the altar.





If you encounter any resistance (ie, if a priest or deacon tells you that you need an annulment first or anything like that), politely thank him and go to the archdiocese. In the Catholic Church, no child is illegitimate - all children (even adult children) are welcome into the Church and are eligible for baptism. The only difference with adults is that they go through the RCIA process first.





Now, if YOU would like to become Catholic (and I congratulate you if this is your wish), you will need to attend RCIA. It is an enriching experience. You will learn so much and discover such a depth of Christ's Truth.





If you and your husband would like your marriage blessed in the Catholic Church (I'm assuming you didn't marry in the Church - or if you did already, this is a moot point), you will need an annullment. However, not having one should not prevent you from enjoying the Mass and the life of the parish community.





Please pay no attention to what the naysayers here say about the Catholic Church - if they understood us, they would join us, or at least respect us.
You can have your child baptized and raise the child in the Catholic faith.





There will be some baptism preparation to attend. As others have suggested you may want to attend RCIA classes, not to become Catholic, but tofully understand the Catholics believe. Of course, if you choose to become Catholic we will welcome you.
I don't think your prior marriage and divorce will have any effect on your child's baptism. Talk to a priest about it. They usually do require both parents and Godparents to attend baptism classes ( one or two) in preparation for the baby's baptism. Good luck!
According to Catholic doctrine, you don't have a choice but to raise your kids Catholic because you married a Catholic.
First you need to be baptized and then let your child get baptized too.


But, you have to believe strongly in what you are doing and want it from all of your heart!
I married a Catholic, too. I grew up Southern Baptist, so I am aware of the basis or cause of some of the more vile reactions to your question. You should ignore those, of course, as those folks have never really looked into the Catholic faith properly. Indeed, I did not either until I was 62 years old. I then converted to Catholicism after giving it a fair hearing and studying their rationale for their thinking and practices. They really make the most sense, and the Catholic mass service is truly geared to focusing on Jesus in a way protestants pretty much miss.





You should indeed immediately see the priest and should ask about attending the RCIA course for adults who need to know about the Catholic religion. At the end of that effort of several months of weekly meetings, you will be far better prepared for what you got yourself into. You will also be a lot happier knowing the whys and wherefores, and you will likely decide to convert.





I attended mass for 25 years as we raised our two daughters in the Catholic church. I did not convert, being unfamiliar with the reasons that Catholics do what they do and, also, have been essentially taught to ';hate'; Catholic beliefs as a youth. Our daughters grew up with an ambiguous split family attitude on the religious parts of their lives, something that is now regrettable as they now fall short of the religious intensity and grace of their own mother's example.





One key issue you face is not being able to take communion since this is not appropriate for you to do in the Catholic church as someone who does not understand or subscribe to (believe) Catholic teachings. This key issue is better understood once you understand that Catholics are expected to perceive that (believe that) the wine and bread are indeed the actual body and blood of Christ, not just symbolic. In doing this, while it seems alien to protestants, the effect on the believer is much stronger (holier impact) and more appropriate as it challenges and inspires all the way to the soul. The Catholics do this every Mass, and it is the focus of every mass.





So, if you are not actually a Catholic believer, your participation in communion would degrade the experience of others, including the priests since they are taught to strive to present themselves to be as humble as Jesus and act as Jesus would in dealing with you and with all others. I spent 25 years thinking that they were just on a control trip, but I never really looked into it. I then went back to attending a Southern Baptist church for 15 years before I actually took the trouble to look into the Catholic church more fairly.





The other (many other) differences that seem alien to protestants are mostly intended to also enhance the experience (religious inspiration level) and actually make a lot of sense. For example, Catholics believe (they use the word ';hope'; often, actually, which makes a lot of sense) that their deceased relatives went to heaven and are still alive in heaven. Before they died and went to heaven, we asked them for their advice and help, so why not do so after they go to heaven?





Thus, Catholics feel free to talk to the deceased (pray to them) as well as the ';saints'; who truly were inspirational persons while in this Earthly existence, in the hope of getting some help with communicating with Jesus. This includes talking with (praying to) Jesus' mother Mary. Many protestants are taught that Catholics ';worship'; Mary, which is not really the intent, but even if it were they truly worship Jesus much more. The statues and images also facilitate getting into a holy frame of reference as they simply make it less necessary to rely on one's limited imagination.





Again, the entire Catholic mass is geared around worshiping Jesus at a level significantly above what most protestants are able to achieve. I have never seen anyone asleep at a Catholic mass or even nodding off. I have seldom attended a protestant service where people were not nodding off or sound asleep, even in the choir.





So, my advice to anyone marrying a Catholic is to join up and start being a good Catholic. You will find that learning about all of this as an adult will likely make you a better Catholic and allow you to experience a better connection to Jesus than even those who were raised Catholic. I can vouch for it, if not guarantee it.





I remember being taught in Baptist Sunday School as a teenager that the worst thing about being the child of a Baptist missionary is that the Catholic kids throw rocks at you. Even as a teenager I realized that such teachings are propaganda and inappropriate. You will be pleased to know that Catholics do not teach their youth such things about protestants. In this respect, I have come to realize that the average Catholic is far more like Jesus than the average protestant.





Again, logic and experience will prove me right once you get into it. If it does not work out for you, you can always go
You've been divorced, your going to personally have issues there. They'll be more than happy to baptize your child (worthless though), but you'll most likely never be able to participate in mass and many other things. My advice is get away from that organization. There are so many issues with them that are just not Biblical it's not funny.





Just so you know, if you have your child baptized, this does nothing for his salvation. It will do away with nothing. Don't be fooled. You will not find infant baptism in the bible anywhere except the verses they (CC) will want you to believe. Bottom line, baptism is a cleansing of sins, can you ask your child if he/she understands what sin is and what sins they committed. Until you have an understand of what sin is, your baptism means nothing.





Just My Thoughts!