Why do you need premarital course before getting married?

We are gonna be getting married and want to know what this course is for. Any great answers are cool.Why do you need premarital course before getting married?
It's basic stuff. You know most of it already. Basically it's how to be in a relationship 101. It is your chance to prove how good you are at being married.





You should go if for no other reason then it will allow you to bring up topics that you would never even think about.





Such as - Will we have a dishwasher? Or will washing the dishes be a family activity?





You might even get in a few fights over the topics. Though if you talk about them now, then you might have less trouble laterWhy do you need premarital course before getting married?
You don't need a premarital course.





Making a marriage last and be enjoyable is pretty much the same as the rules for living a happy life.





1 - Consider the other person





2 - Find out what makes them feel loved, and do those things (often these are little things, but don't make assumptions. People are different and it's much easier to just ask your partner what makes then feel loved, then they also know that when you do those things you understand that it tells them you love them).





3 - Give each other space. Whatever anyone says - everyone needs the space to think about themselves and have their own hobbies/pursuits. It can be tempting at first to give up things you enjoy in order to spend time with your loved one, but over time those compromises bubble into regret or resentment. Make sure you both don't forgo things which are important to you.





4 - Do little things every day to make your partner smile.





Many men think that big gestures put feelings in the bank, but women prefer lots of regular small gestures to irregular overblown ones.





5 - For women, support your partner in his aspirations and let him feel like he is creating a future for you both. Even if you don't think he can achieve something - your support is valuable to him being motivated to see it through.





6 - Don't go to bed without resolving an argument. Waking up with bad feelings from the day./night before is not a good way to start the day.





Follow that advice and you should have no worries.
There isn't enough room to write about this.





Marriage holds *so* much in terms of practical needs, practical requirements and things that have to be sorted and worked out. And it's helpful if as many of these things are worked out in advance as possible.





Marriage is work, it's tough, and it's adult.





It's not just ';advanced dating';.





And just ';being in love'; is in no way no way no way enough.





People in their twenties--particularly guys--change more during their twenties than during their teens. You're not who you're going to be for the rest of your life. So guidance is helpful before making a commitment wherein your life will *never* be the same again.





And when kids come along, your life, ***as you once knew it***, is *gone*. --Not for the worse, no way. Just gone. And you need to be *totally* aware of *all* the changes that are going to come your way. The sad fact is, most people are only dimly aware, if not totally unaware.





I was lucky enough to marry the love of my life, but my timing and the order I did things plus my maturity levels were all screwed up, and counseling would have helped avert a ton of hurt, let me tell you.





And yes, some people, when asked the tough questions and faced to face the tough issues, will decide not to marry. *They shouldn't*. Better to find out now than twenty years hence, that for instance, nah, the girl you married doesn't really like sex. It hurts. She just did it for you. --I've heard the stories, and I'm as serious as I can be.





I don't think any man should get married before he's 30. And pre-marital counseling should be law. With a 50% divorce rate, courts clogged to overflowing, and judges having to rule on 20 divorce cases a day just to get through their dockets, the price in tax dollars and human suffering (especially the kids) is incalculable.





Take the course. Take two. I can't emphasize it enough.
It's usually a way to prep for marriage. Your premarital counselor will stress the importance of mutual respect, honest communication, trust, and fidelity (and will incorporate religious aspects if you are receiving premarital counseling from someone in your church). It's not meant to be scary or intimidating, and the person isn't going to try to tell you how to run your life. Go with an open mind. There will be some advice you find priceless, and some that you will wan to roll your eyes over, but it's a learning experience, and you'll both come out a little wiser. :)
I don't know anyone who has done it, but with the divorce rates soooo high it makes sense. You never really know what to expect when you get married. A lot of people think it's just fun and games and romance, but in truth it's tough!! Guessing I would say they probably have you fake fight and give advice as to how to control your emotions and learn to talk things out, as well as how to fully communicate everything. Wonderful idea, and if nothing else, it will show you both that you are definetly in it for the long haul.
Well the high divorce rate has brought this about in some places and churches - you don't mention WHO or WHAT is making you do this... but if you are going to get married why not be as PREPARED as possible for the relationship %26amp; future together. Take it as an opportunity and learn from it.





I highly recommend a BOOK called ';The Five Love Languages'; (Chapman) too for anyone in a long term relationship or marriage - it is really worthwhile and helps a LOT!
Would you take a course, a seminar or seek advice before comitting to buying a house, a car, choosing a good school or even before going to see a movie?





Consider that marriage is for the long haul. Ideally (or so you say during your VOWS) - till death to you part!!





A great man once said that a wise man, as a course of action, will seek advice.
it is so you both talk about how you feel about important adult issues that will come up in your marriage. it is so you find out these things before you have marriage and kids.





i was once engaged and went to this twice, at the end of the second session i was so appalled at the fiance i now realized i didnt know at all and what i now knew i was horrified at that i broke up with him right then and there. i was very young and it was a brief engagement a long time ago, but, there you are. proof it works.





i did it again years later with my fine fiance who became my husband 30 years ago, worked again.
A lot of religious groups are requiring counseling before they willl marry anyone. It just make you communicate a lot of different issues that some people dont ever talk about before they are married. Sometimes these other issues if not worked out can be overwhelming and become a cause for divorce.
Keep communicate open


Discussions of how the house will run..who pay the bills..financial issues..savings..working..


planning of how daily routine of maintaining a relationship..
Catholic churches require it before they'll allow couples to marry.
You don't. Unless your Catholic.