When should we start teaching our kids that they must wait to get married?

My daughter watches TV and movies where they glorify marriage but I want my daughter to focus only on school untill she has obtained her career goals. I dont even want her dating.When should we start teaching our kids that they must wait to get married?
I've been telling my daughter since she was old enough to listen. She's 13 now (almost 14). She is not boy crazy.... she is always talking about her life and the career she wants. She wants to be a vet and is involved in 4-H as well as takes very good care of all her animals (4 guinea pigs, a cat, a dog). She doesn't like to dress like a hoochie and is disgusted with girls who do. She doesn't wear make up and doesn't ask to either.





I have been talking to her her whole life about waiting to get married until she has a career and a home of her own. No sex either! I haven't spared her any details and she is a really focused kid for her age. I don't know why it's working, but it's working and I am thankful!When should we start teaching our kids that they must wait to get married?
As early as she can understand which for some is 3 and 4. We encourage abstinence until marriage and we started this young. My 4 year old has been taught mommys and daddys that got married should have babies because he sees alot of his teen cousins with kids. As our older boys grow up we tell them that good grades is what gets them to college and college needs to be the main focus in their life until they graduate from it.
well you can't stop love from happening when it's meant to happen it will. You also can't put your daughter in a bubble and expect her to not date. You sound extremely strict, and that will only encourage her to do the very things you don't want her doing, only she'll be doing them behind your back instead of without your knowledge. So impart your wisdom to her, teach her values, morals, and how to rely on herself, and then when the time comes, trust her to make the right decisions for her life. It's not your life and you can't live it for her.
how old is your daughter anyway?


You should sit her down and talk to her about it in a time where she is not occupied with anything else like; (school,friends,etc.)





Hopes this Help!
What if her career goals are to become a sahm?





Anyway, I think early marriage can be good for her education and career... that way she won't be distracted by all the boys all the time, waste time dating and going out getting drunk at bars etc. Once you're married you don't have to care about the latest fashion etc. Being married really saves a ton of time that can be spent on education. It's also safer because you won't risk STDs, date rape, stalkers, etc.
Honestly from experience I think you should teach your child this value, but not drill it into her head. If you're too strict about dating this will seem to her that you don't trust her decision making. Praise her when she does well in school, help her with her work, and show her you value education and learning new things through example. If your too strict and preach too much, she will rebel.
That's a decision your daughter has to make on her own. Marriage doesn't have to mean the end of her education and career goals. And what if her goals are to get married and have kids? Would you want her to wait till she's 30 to get married and 35 to have her first kid?
You're trying to force your opinions of sexuality onto her. Better is to set an example and explain to her the dangers of sex - VD, Gonnorhea, Syphilis, HIV, etc. Think of it like trying to get her to stop smoking or overeat by setting an example.





However rading hormones in a teenager are difficult to quell. In that case, explain to her that if she MUST experiment with sex, then birth control is the KEY!





Don't be ignorant and ignore the possibilities of her having sex. You cannot keep your eyes on her 24/7! Thus it's smart and wise to explain to her the ideas behind birth control. 'No glove, no love' sort of thing.





Be proactive and NOT reactive like most of our parents were while we grew up.
I'm Not Sure How Old Everyone Else Is That Answered, But I'm 23 And I Can Tell You Honestly...





You Can't!!!





They're Going To Have To Make The Decision On Their Own... I Dated In High School, But I Didn't Want A Baby Then So I Waited Until I Was In Grade 12 To Have Sex. I Was In Long Relationships All Through High School And Broke Up With One Guy Because He Wanted To have Sex And Tried To Push Me TO Do It... I Dated Jocks And Preppy Guys And He Was The ONLY One Who Tried To Push Me.





I've Been With My Boyfriend For 5 Years Now, We Bought Our First House 3 Years Ago And Are Expecting Our First Child This Fall... However, We Are Still NOT Married... We'd Like To Get Married, But It Seems A Little Expensive For A Piece Of Paper To Say We Are:)





Good Luck With Your Daughter...
Well teaching our children the main priorities on when to get married, comes best the soon as their first love. Once their she can understand where love can take someone, if not in love she will simply answer OH I WILL NEVER MARRY SOME GUY!!!! (I said that once.) Start talking to her about that, you will put her on the right track.
You should point out the divorce rate and domestic violence showing that marriage is often not what its cracked up to be and only glorified going steady.








Dont want her dating... Tuff titty mate.








Shes human, she will have hormones, feelings, emotions, needs , desires.








Will like guys and want to be with some and hopefuly somone specail.





You cant fight nature... doing so will only damage her and you realtioship and make her more likly to get pregnant and drop grades.








You need to instead help her all you can to be able to form realtioships that works out nicely and to balance that with school work and obtaining those career goals and forming realtioships.





You need her to understand that things like bjs etc are all part of affection and all she needs to know sex ed wiase to avoi getting pregnant whilst it gets done.











Or you wind up with a heavily tramatised girl with annorexia, bulemia, self harming, utting herself and suicdal and kiss goodby then to said career goals.














Shes a human being not a robot mate.








she will have feelings not a data absorbing robot








This is a battle you cannot win.








All you can do is help her find success in sex and realtionships and how to balance this with education and work...








the more successful she is the less stress and less effort need which will leave that mauch more time and enegy to study
Why don't you just let her be what she is. Maybe an early marriage is good for her. Maybe she'll grow out of the idea herself. Maybe if you make this an issue, it will stick and she will rebel against you.





That's funny: glorifying marriage in the media. That's a change. I thought Westerners were for the most part angry and frustrated over marriage.





You don't want her dating? Don't be so chauvinistic.





Again, you better watch what you show to this girl, because she'll pick up on it. Your ideas could be your downfall.