Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Can two married women live under the same roof for one month?

My wife's friend broke up with her husband and she wants to live with us until she gets her own place. I hesitated at first then agreed to it. Will two married women under the same roof get along?Can two married women live under the same roof for one month?
They are friends, yes it should be fine. Just know your place (along side your wife).Can two married women live under the same roof for one month?
Well sure they can. You just have make boundaries. Your wife is the woman of the household so she should be in charge of running her castle. The other woman is just a guest there, trying to get back on her feet and find herself again. As long as there is no naughty business going on with the husband and the friend, then there should be no problems really. Just set boundaries and tell the friend if you expect anything from her, like do the dishes and clean up after herself or what ever. Just have everything on the table and then there is no confusion later. Everyone should get along fine. Good luck.
If she is at least as good looking as your wife and even if she is a little better looking then your wife and for sure if she is way better looking then your wife you will get set up to take cr*p for wanting, thinking of, or having slept with her even if you never think it once ever it could be bad for you. lololol or you could have a trusting wife and get what you want from the friend because she is greatful for the place to sleep no one will be the wiser......



Well as long as your wife and her friend doesn't try anything with you . Woman get there heads together and they tend to get devious and talk about crap that doesn't exists . Usually one will try something with you then say they was just testing you or shower together to see your reactions try certain clothing on to see if you think her friend is pretty in it then get mad at you for saying yes all sorts of ignorant things . The question is can you live with two woman under your roof .
Living under the same roof should be fine. Make sure the friend knows the boundaries and doesn't interfere with your marriage. If the friend likes to flirt with people (even a little) it could be trouble for you. Have a clear set of rules about bringing other men into your house.





Make sure the friend has her own room (and bathroom with shower if possible). If you have a large house that's even better because it will keep things totally separate.
If they are friends they should be able to handle it for a month. If you don't have a guest room it may not be a good idea however. If you can, put a television in her bedroom so she can get away alone in the evenings, and you and your wife can have some time alone too. She might want to discuss any special issues with your guest. If she expects to eat meals at your home then talk about that before hand for example. For instance, you might say we usually have dinner at 6pm and share the cooking and clean up. Tell her if she would like to join you to please let you know the day before.
It really depends on the three of you. Assuming that you are not sexually attracted to the other woman and assuming that she does some of the housework and does not act like a guest (if she is going to stay long), I do not see why it will not work out.





I would have all three of you sit down together and talk about each of your exceptions.





1. How long will she be with you?


2. What will the household responsibilities of each of you be?


3. Who will work outside of the home?


4. Do you expect her to pay anything for expenses (food, room, electricity, phone, water....). I big one that frequently causes problems is phone (long distance calls).


5. How about children? If either of you have children you should talk about who will discipline them.


6. Privacy is also a big issue... for her and for you and your wife.





I could go on but you get the general idea.
Yup, it will work out. Definitely give it a one month limit though, and make sure your wife sees to it that she's gone in that time. Having a third wheel living with you can put a strain on your marriage over time. The two women may get along a lot better than you want them to. Hope they don't team up.
My husbands partner's wife let her friend move in with them for awhile.. Not sure how long but it was longer then a month. She was getting divorced also.





What happened was her friend kept complaining about her ex and it put ideas into her head and caused problems with her and her husband. The friend finally moved out but now they are both in counseling and on the verge of divorce themselves.











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Why wouldn't they unless you do something to stir jealousy in your wife.
For a short span of time yes.
Bad idea! I've seen it happen between two sisters. Just, no! Bad idea!
No. Let her find somewhere else to live. What happens at the end of a month if she has nowhere else to live? She may be mooching off you for a year.
I don't think it's a matter of them getting along, she's your wife's friend after all. I think it's more a matter of can you deal with it. Good luck.

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